Sexual Wellness in 2025: A Guide to Reclaiming Your Pleasure

Breaking the Silence

In my examination room, I regularly witness women apologize for their bodies, hesitate to ask important questions about intimate concerns, or express embarrassment when discussing sexual difficulties. This hesitation reflects our society’s persistent discomfort with female sexuality, creating unnecessary barriers to women receiving the care and information they deserve.

At Via Women’s Health Collective, we believe that sexual wellness is an essential component of overall health—not an optional luxury or taboo subject. Each woman deserves to understand her body, recognize what brings her pleasure, and feel empowered to communicate her needs.

Understanding Female Pleasure

Before we discuss specific recommendations, let’s establish some important facts about female sexual pleasure:

The clitoris exists solely for pleasure—it’s the only human organ with this exclusive purpose
Most women require clitoral stimulation (either alone or combined with vaginal stimulation) to reach orgasm
Studies show that heterosexual women report experiencing orgasm during partnered sex at significantly lower rates than their male partners
Self-stimulation often leads to orgasm more quickly and reliably for women compared to partnered sexual activity

These realities aren’t shortcomings or flaws—they’re simply how female bodies typically work. Understanding these facts can help eliminate shame and frustration while setting realistic expectations.

The Journey to Sexual Wellness

Whether you’re currently in a relationship or not, exploring your own pleasure is a valuable endeavor that can improve your relationship with your body and enhance your overall wellbeing. Here are my top recommendations for women looking to invest in their sexual health:

1. Quality Lubricants Are Essential

Many women don’t realize that lubricant isn’t just for addressing vaginal dryness—it’s a tool that can enhance comfort and pleasure for women of all ages, regardless of natural lubrication levels. I recommend having both water-based and silicone options available:

Water-based options to consider:

Those containing hyaluronic acid for additional moisturizing benefits
Formulations free from glycerin and parabens if you’re sensitive to these ingredients
pH-balanced options that support vaginal health

Silicone options:

Longer-lasting formulations for extended play
Hypoallergenic versions for sensitive skin
Options without added fragrances or flavors

Remember: Using lubricant is not an indication that something is “wrong” with you or that you’re not aroused enough. It’s simply a tool to enhance comfort and pleasure, just as you might use spices to enhance a delicious meal.

2. Exploring Self-Pleasure Tools

Self-exploration is a fundamental aspect of sexual health. How can you communicate what brings you pleasure if you haven’t discovered it yourself? Consider investing in quality tools designed for female pleasure:

For beginners:

Simple external vibrators with multiple intensity settings
Smaller insertable options with gentle vibration
Massage oils and personal moisturizers

For those with more experience:

Dual-stimulation devices that address both internal and external pleasure points
Pressure wave or air pulse technology that mimics oral stimulation
App-controlled options that allow for personalized patterns

For patients experiencing pain with penetration or who are working through sexual trauma, vaginal dilators can be tremendously helpful when used as part of a comprehensive treatment plan.

3. Mental Stimulation Matters

The brain is perhaps the most powerful sexual organ, particularly for women. Engaging your mind through quality erotic content can significantly enhance desire and arousal:

Audio erotica apps designed specifically for women
Written erotica that focuses on female pleasure and agency
Mindfulness practices that help you stay present during intimate moments

Unlike mainstream pornography (which often misrepresents female pleasure), thoughtfully created erotic content can help you connect with your desires in a positive, empowering way.

Communicating With Partners

Once you’ve developed a better understanding of your own body and preferences, the next challenge often involves communicating these discoveries with a partner. Here are some approaches that my patients have found helpful:

Schedule a “pleasure conversation” outside the bedroom when you’re both relaxed
Use positive framing: “I really enjoy when…” rather than “You’re not doing this right”
Consider educational books or videos that you can explore together
Remember that vulnerability often strengthens intimacy rather than threatening it

When to Seek Professional Help

Sexual difficulties are extremely common and often highly treatable. Consider speaking with a healthcare provider specializing in sexual health if you experience:

Pain during intercourse that doesn’t improve with lubricant
Persistent difficulty reaching orgasm despite self-exploration
Significant loss of desire that causes distress
Discomfort discussing sexual needs with your partner(s)
Concerns about how medications might be affecting your sexual function

At Via Women’s Health Collective, we offer comprehensive sexual health assessments and treatment plans tailored to your specific needs and concerns. Our judgment-free environment ensures you can discuss these sensitive topics comfortably.

Embracing Your Sexual Wellness Journey

Remember that sexual wellness, like all aspects of health, is a journey rather than a destination. Your needs, preferences, and experiences will evolve throughout your life. The key is approaching this journey with curiosity rather than judgment, and with patience rather than pressure.

As your healthcare team, Via Women’s Health Collective is here to support you every step of the way — providing evidence-based information and compassionate care. For practical solutions for your sexual health concerns, call our Westfield office at (317) 707-9446 today!

Dr. Taylor Hahn is a board-certified OB/GYN specializing in women’s sexual health and menopause care at Via Women’s Health Collective. She is passionate about empowering women through education and compassionate care.

Dr. Taylor Hahn, MD, FACOG, MSCP